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Men, Let's Talk! Pornography: The Quiet Addiction

An inspirational testimony about the 30-year struggle with addiction to pornography, and how being born again led to eventual diliverance through his relationship with Jesus Christ and the power of the Word of God.
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

"There is no more common enemy of true manhood than the diversion or the perversion of our sexual capacities. I welcome every contribution to the arsenal of resistance."
-Jack W. Hayford, Litt.D., pastor of The Church on the Way and president of The King's Seminary
"The vulnerable, honest, and insightful pages of this book reveal what every
man must know."
-Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
"Clear, practical principles for sexual purity...a call for courage, commitment,
and self-discipline."
-Dr. John C. Maxwell, founder of The INJOY Group
"Read with an open heart, Every Man's Battle may save your marriage and your witness."
-Dr. Gary Rosberg, president of America's Family Coaches
author of Guard Your Heart and The Five Love Needs of Men and Women
The Devil Dog Road by Mr. Mo: -masturbation and pornography- OVERCOMING SEXUAL ADDICTION

YIKES! The original manuscript was reviewed by an Atlanta PhD. and sexologist who commented: "Some of this is very good, especially the Ode. But it's half-baked. Also you don't need to go to a priest for help. Yes, I do think you may be Bi-sexual." * * * Others have said: "Whew, just awful, a stream of consciousness that is very upsetting. I wouldn't buy it any price!" - A Catholic Priest and Author. "Somebody had to do it." A girl at Kinko's. "I was just getting it on and then it turned me off." A former truck driver. * * * The book is in two themes: the first is an embellished narrative with graphic intermission. The second is a play with the Freudian characters of the Ego, Superego and Id narrating a truer, less embellished version that is somewhat preachy and moralistic. The intent of the book remains a mystery. Although as an aging, still sexually confused person, I hope it may speak a message of hope. Finally, the genre is one that a male or female can really relate to having experienced similar drives, desires and imaginings that have not been expressed so graphically or truly. "Yeah, I tried that, and thought about it. I would never tell anybody because I would turn purple and die of shame."
Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obession in the Internet Age

With personal stories from addicts and their significant others, this updated essential resource offers realistic healing strategies for anyone experiencing the devastating impact of Internet pornography and sex addiction on intimacy, relationships, career, health, and self-respect.
Stolen Hours: Breaking Free from Secret Addictions

Stolen Hours is a valuable contribution to the literature on addiction and recovery, especially as it relates to the Christian faith. Having been through drug and alcohol treatment four times myself, but then finally finding freedom from addiction concomitant with my conversion to Christianity ten years ago, I can attest to the experiential validity of Prin's account. A central part of recovery is the realization of one's true identity as fashioned in the image of God, but suffering the effects of a fallen nature. Unfortunately, this is not something that most treatment centers will (or can) impart or even endorse to addicts seeking recovery. Addiction is but one means that points to our need of an eternal Savior. Prin's book is one of the rare accounts in the literature on addiction that recognizes this. Prin uses riveting firsthand accounts and retrospective insights to unpack these concepts for us. I am truly grateful for his efforts.
Breaking the Bonds of Pornography 

I know of no other book that deals with pornography in the same way as Breaking the Bonds of Pornography. This book gives direction to the teacher, but at the same time leaves an avenue where the teacher utilizes outside sources at his discretion. Breaking the Bonds of Pornography can be used as a series of scheduled lessons to take the practitioner through a logical and godly process. This includes illustrations, facts, statistics that are linked to scriptural foundation, and practical steps that lead to dealing with pornography in the individual's life. Through Breaking the Bonds of Pornography Dr. Robert Carter shows us the avenue to healing from sexual addiction and the possibility of living a free, productive life. Otis R. Hughes, MA Christian Education Director Alabama District Council of the Assemblies of God As a pastor Dr. Robert Carter saw many in his church and in the community wresting with pornography and sexual addiction. It is his hope that this book will help to set the captive free. Dr. Carter is an ordained Assembly of God minister, and has served in ministry for 32 years. He is currently serving as the President of Barnabas Ministries, a non-profit ministry dedicated to healing the body of Christ through counseling, mediation and seminars. He serves as counselor for the Alabama District of the Assemblies of God. Dr. Carter has a doctorate in Christian Counseling and is dedicated to helping the hurting by equipping Christians to be healthy and effective for Jesus Christ. Dr. Carter and his wife Helen have been married 35 years and live in Alabama. Dr. Carter is also the author of Shut In or Shut Out a book about ministry to senior citizens.
You Aren\'t Alone: The Voices of Addiction 

If you are laboring under the idea there is no way for you to escape your addiction, you can find within the pages of this book a way out. Other men and women have worn your shoes, walked in your path, and spent sleepless nights trying to get the courage to stop what is tearing them apart, causing them physical pain, and mental instability. This book isn't going to condemn you for your addiction, point a finger and tell you your faith isn't strong enough, blame it on your parents, your spouse, even your friends. This book was written to share the stories of men and women who found a pathway out of a network of defeats. The characters in the stories are real, the circumstances are real, their defeats and final victories are very real. The desire they have to share their stories to help you are real. This book was written to convey their experiences so that someone who "has a tiger by the tail" can realize they can let go! Perhaps as you read you will find you can identify with someone's passage through a similar addiction and how they found a way out to happiness. You see, you aren't alone. There are others who have taken the same path you're on. There are those who feel as you feel, fight shadows as you do, and win or lose daily battles. You are never alone; there are others that have the same addiction you have and there are organizations in the land created to help you beat the problem. The chapter "People Who Help" lists organizations, telephone numbers, and addresses. If you need assistance, pick up the phone and call. The voice on the phone, more than likely, will belong to a person who has had the same problems you have and can understand everything you are going through! Take a chance. Take a breath. Realize that You Aren't Alone: The Voices of Addiction was written for you. Table of Contents Preface 1. Pornography: "Just a Little Was Not Enough" 2. Masturbation: "Why Me, God? Why Me?" 3. Drugs: "I Thought He Loved Me" 4. Gambling: "Maybe Tomorrow Will Be My Lucky Day" 5. Eating: "I'll Start My Diet Tomorrow" 6. Gossiping: "It Was Always for Their Own Good" 7. Religion: "Only God Can Hear the Heart" 8. Shopping: "I Sold My Soul for a Sale" 9. Drinking: "Fill It up Again, Sam" 10. Work: "Never Enough" 11. Internet: "I'm Doing My Homework" 12. Medications: "Me Hooked? You Gotta Be Kidding!" 13. People Who Help 14. History of Addictions 15. Psychological, Social, and Medical Problems Attributed to Addictions Glossary
Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus

Our world is awash in sex. We are bombarded with it everywhere we turn--TV, newspapers and magazines, music, movies and the Internet. When this ever-present temptation mixes with human weaknesses and unmet needs, many get pulled into addiction to sexually sinful behavior. They may detest their own habits, but they can't seem to break free. Is there any hope?Russell Willingham speaks from his own experience and that of the many he has counseled. His answer? "Yes! There is hope. Jesus offers forgiveness and healing."True stories show how the principles in this book can be put into action. The essentials are spelled out in practical steps that can help people begin to break free. Willingham deals with such issues as what all addicts have in common
  • the hunt of the malnourished heart
  • where to find the courage to face the dark side
  • wrestling with shame and grace
  • the healing effect of radical honesty
This realistic yet hopeful book offers a new way to see the world for every person who wants to understand and break free from sexual addiction.

The Skinner Box Effect: Sexual Addiction & Online Pornography

These are the facts: 1. Among the millions of people on the Internet there exists a signifigant percentage for whom online pornography is not, and never will be, a "recreational pursuit." Rather it is, or soon will become an addiction. 2. Researchers and clinicians have established that pornography addiction contains all the characteristics of any other kind of addiction: mood altercation, compulsion, dependency, the need for higher and more exotic "doses" and withdrawl symptoms when the person tries to stop. 3. Because of the "Skinner Box Effect," pornography on the Internet is different and far more virulent than the customary forms. The reason is because it derives its potency from both the content of what is seen, AND from the way it is presented to the user by the technology itself.
 For those suffering from the problem, Dr. Grundner provides a series of behavioral and spiritual techniques to help stop the downward spiral. Over 30 personal accounts are presented—taken directly from the Internet itlesf—of the pain, suffering, loss of jobs, and failed marriages that have resulted from online pornography and sexual addiciton.
This book is a warning, but one which contains a large measure of hope.

Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage

Written from firsthand experience, this amazingly open book offers hope and healing for women who have been hurt by their husband's sexual addiction.







Sex and the Internet: A Guide Book for Clinicians

This groundbreaking book is the first of its kind to thoroughly explore the topic of cybersex and the effects of Internet use on sexuality. Focusing on treatment and assessment issues and the clinical implications of cybersex, this authoritative volume provides mental health professionals with an analysis of the most recent empirical evidence along with research specific to the impact of Internet use on couples and families, gay men, people with disabilities, children, and the workplace. Edited by one of the leading researchers, clinicians and authors in the emerging field of sex and the Internet, this book addresses the growing complexity of Internet sex issues and their impact on psychological functioning.

The Sex Addiction Workbook: Proven Strategies to Help You Regain Control of Your Life

Some people use sex to medicate their feelings and/or cope with stress much in the same way as others would use alcohol or drugs. Lack of sexual self-control can manfest in the form of excessive use of porn sites, phone sex, and strip bars; it can lead to multiple infidelities, risky sexual behavior, bankruptcy, or the loss of a job due to their out of control behaviors. Rooted in shame and low self-esteem, there is little satisfaction gained from the sexual activites and rarely an interest in intimacy or emotional connection. This book addresses readers with a lack of sexual self-control where their behavior is interfering with their relationhip, job, and reputation.
The authors guide the readers as they assess their level of sexual-self control problems, teaching relapse prevention methods and helping readers increase motivation and commitment to change. Readers then set goals and assess their choices. The second section of the book delves into the cognitive restructuring necessary to produce change, helping readers examine their behaviors, decision-making process, cognitive distortions (need for immediate gratification, deviant sexual fantasizing). In the third section, readers deal with their the impact of their emotions on their behaviors and lead them toward self-acceptance. Finally, readers learn to increase intimacy and live a more balanced life.
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives.. "Out of the Shadows" is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.


Cybersex: The Dark Side of the Force: A Special Issue of the Journal Sexual Addiction and Compulsion
A Crucial resource for sex therapists, who until now had no rigorous study of the effect of online pornography on the patients they treat.

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior

 It's 3:30 a.m. and Kevin is still online, absorbed in pornographic images flashing across his computer screen, and searching for more. Hours ago he tucked his children into bed and said good night to his wife, retreating to the computer to "finish up some work." Although his late night ritual leaves Kevin ashamed and exhausted, he is too embarassed and guild-ridden to seek help. He tells himself that no one would understand anyway. Anonymous and accessible, the Internet offers an alluring arena for compulsive sexual behavior. Destroyed marriages, career loss, and financial ruin are common outcomes. Revealing how desperate life can become for someone addicted to online sex, In the Shadows of the Net brings hope and healing to mena dn women struggling to understand and overcome this compulsive behavior. Drawing on their collective clinical expertise as well as current research, the authors equip readers with specific strategies for recognizing and recovering from compulsive online sexual behavior. "A valuable road map for understanding and healing cybersex addictions." Windy Maltz, M.S.W., author, The Sexual Healing Journey, and coauthor, Private Thoughts "In the Shadows of the Net shines a hopeful light on the dark side of cyberspace. It is certain to become a valued resource in dealing with a new frontier of addictive disorders.Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, and author Silently Seduced "The authors Present a positive and effective approach to dealing with cybersex, a rapidsly increasing problem. In the Shadows of the Net is sure to become a classic in its field." Gary Blanchard, B.A., A.A.C., Addiction Counselor, and author, The Positive Path of Recovery "Very powerful. In the Shadows of the Net comes at a time when the need is great for understanding and exploring cybersex treatment possibiliites. Today Internet pornography is more powerful than Viagra for many persons. I shall definitely recommend this book to my patients." Ralph H. Earle, M.Div., Ph.D., Prseident, Psychological Counseling Services, Ltd., coauthor, Lonely All the Time.



















































Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery

This book carefully walks someone struggling with porngraphy through the steps to recovery. This book begins with how pornography becomes a problem in the mind and how it becomes addictive. Then it teaches the reader how to rewrite the patterns in the mind. It closes with the key steps of recovery.










Confronting Your Spouse's Pornography Problem

Addressing the modern issue of addiction to Internet pornography, this evaluation guides spouses struggling to find ways to confront this problem in their married lives. Calling on years of counseling experience and clinical study, the authors cover the most concerning issues of this addiction, from understanding the importance of disclosure to reestablishing trust for the success of a long-term marriage. Containing valuable information gathered from experience, research, and the testimonies of clients struggling to overcome these issues, this guide helps couples confront and overcome the hurdles of related activities such as illicit chat rooms, cybersex, and predatory behavior towards minors.































Sex. "The Seductive Addiction"

Sex. Just the mere mention of the word takes you to a myriad of places and thoughts. Despite sex being a God given pleasure, it can be hazardous when not practiced in the context it was created for. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to make up, and cologne to mortgages. Sex can become addictive. This addiction affects many men and women and keeps them from great levels of achievement. Men are the hardest hit. Sex is the greatest area of weakness for a man. This book is a quick read. It is a guide designed to help those caught in the addiction, and prevent those who are not caught. Men will read this book and be challenged to "step it up" and deal with this problem head on. Women will be encouraged to know that there are solutions to sexual addiction.








Illusions Of Intimacy: Unmasking Patterns Of Sexual Addiction And Bringing Deep Healing To Those Who Struggle

In all of my 12 years in ministry and my own journey for Wholeness in Christ, very few people have been able to simplify and illuminate the process of healing from what I hate to call "common" or "typical" sexual brokenness in our culture as Signa and Conlee. It is a dangerous time now for believers because we can grow so quickly numb to the bombardment of sexual distortions in our society. Even the other day I noticed Disney cartoons making sexual references that I wonder many believing parents would overlook or even laugh at. This book helped me and others to further our understanding for just how subtle evil is, yet how much God desires to heal and what that healing looks like. Please consider this book. If you are struggling with, have dealt with or are being tempted in any areas of pornography or living with someone who is, this book could seriously change your life. God bless. Comments welcome... (...)
The Drug of the New Millennium: The Science of How Internet Pornography Radically Alters the Human Brain and Body

This out of print book is in need of another printing. It is worth the 30 bucks or so that I had to pay online for a used copy. The only thing out of date might be some of the statistics.
With the advent of the internet, porn is now one of the most lucrative ventures in the history of mankind. Love it or hate it, porn is here to stay.
What's odd is the deafening silence about this taboo topic. If you have ever wondered WHY porn is so attractive to the mind/body and how it can lead to addictions and other problematic behaviors in both men and women alike, then this is a great place to start.
Without being "preachy", the author addresses how exposure to erotic images cause physical changes in the brain and body.
The Drug of the New Millennium: The Science of How Internet Pornography Radically Alters the Human Brain and Body is one of the best books I have seen so far on the topic of internet pornography and it's influence on individiuals and society.
Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction

"Dr. Patrick Carnes is a creative,  pioneering, and courageous human being. His books are  changing the lives of  thousands!"
"I lost three marriages, all because of affairs."  "I became suicidal because of multiple intense  involvements."
"I spent money on sex when I  needed it for children's clothes."
"I  lost promotion opportunities and a special  scholarship because my co-workers found out about my sex  life."
Every day they face the possibility of  destruction, risking their families, fiances,  jobs, dignity, and health. They come from all walks  of life: ministers, physicians, therapists,  politicians, executives, blue-collar workers. Most were  abused as children--sexually, physically or  emotionally--and saw addictive behavior in their early  lives. Most grapple with other addictions as well,  but their fiercest battle is with the most  astounding prevalent "secret" disorder in  America: sexual addiction. Here is a ground-breaking  work by the nation's leading professional expert on  sexual addiction, based on the candid testimony of  more than one thousand recovering sexual addicts  in the first major scientific study of the  disorder. This essential volume includes not only the  revealing findings of Dr. Carne's research with  recovering addicts but also advice from the addicts and  co-addicts themselves as they work to overcome  their compulsive behavior. Positive, hopeful, and  practical, Don't Call It Love is  a landmark book that helps us better understand  all addictions, their causes, and the difficult path  to recovery.
Living with Your Husbands Secret Wars

I was so relieved to find this book. My husband has struggled with sexual addiction since before our marriage. It is such a confusing subject, especially in todays accepting society. I was so thankful to know the truth concerning the damage pornography has on intimate relationships. It is a relief to find such honesty. Women discuss the pain this type of addiction has caused them. I now know that my feelings are valid and I am not crazy to be upset about my husband's use of pornography. It has and is doing real damage to all concerned. I am seeking help now for codependancy on my part. The book reccomends paths to healing which I am eager to begin. Thanks Marsha!
Is It Love or Is It Addiction? - Second Edition

With more than 250,000 copies in print, Is It Love or Is It Addiction? has helped countless people find their way from the trials and confusions of addictive love to the fulfillment of whole and healthy relationships. In this second edition, psychotherapist Brenda Schaeffer draws on new developments in her practice, as well as a decade of feedback, to expand her original insights and advice. The result is a fresh perspective on intimacy and an invaluable practical guide to making relationships work. Brenda Schaeffer conducts workshops on addictive relationships. She is the author ofLoving Me, Loving You.
Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power

Certain women (and men) use sex addictively as a substitute for love, nurture or power, according to Minneapolis psychologist Kasl. "Crammed with case histories, diagrams and therapeutic suggestions, this study draws on her work with members of two organizations: Sex Addicts Anonymous, and Co-Dependents of Sex Addicts, a group for partners of so-called sex addicts," wrote PW. Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc.
Protecting Those You Love in an X-Rated World/Includes Free Quick Home Guide to Porn Protection

10 Proven ways to arm yourself with the proper equipment to block out pornography from your home and computer. Discover who in your house is visiting X-rated websites. Guaranteed ice breakers to talk to your kids about sex-related things. Where spouses and families can find help and support for pornography addictions and those affected by them. This book includes a free Quick Guide to Home PORNtection.
At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry

I read "Every Mans Battle" and "Out of the Shadows." They may help a normal guy with regular temptation, but they did nothing for me. But in this book, Gallagher reveals his personal story of escape from enslavement to lust. He used the sacred scriptures to understand the truth about himself, sin, and GOD.
My lack of self-control and obedience to God has destoyed two marriages. Due in great part to Steve's book, I now truly believe that Christ offers freedom and hope. God's grace enables us to abide in Christ. And just as the illustration Steve used to close his book, when we get off track, God's grace tells us to get right back on.
AND IF YOU'RE OFFENDED BY THE FEAR OF THE LORD BEING THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM, YOU WON'T LIKE THIS BOOK.
Break Free: From the Lusts of This World

Steve Gallagher lovingly takes off his gloves in this book, and he's paid the price to do it. Based on the book of Revelation, he explores the churches in the early part of the Book of Revelation and compares them to our modern time. Other authors have made efforts to do the same, but Steve speaks from a different venue.
You shouldn't be put off by the title of the book - Breaking Free from the Lusts of this World - because he doesn't just speak of lust from a sexual addiction perspective. He examines, in light of Scripture the many lusts - the eyes, the heart, the mind, the culture, and anything which might usurp God's authority in our lives.
This book still has me under conviction, and if it's put in enough hands of "true" Christians, I believe we will see a genuine change come to the Church of Jesus Christ. The real measure, however, is Steve's belief that those who call themselves Christian are heading towards a "trying time," and only those who are ready for the return of the Lord and are living their lives in obedience to His Spirit will be spared.
Highly recommended to read over and over again!!!
 
When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives

Behind every husband enslaved to sexual sin, there is a woman reaping the horrible side effects of his selfcentered lifestyle. What can be more devastating for a wife than to discover her husband has a secret obsession with pornography and other women? Yet, this is what countless Christian wives face every day. Kathy Gallagher has been there; she understands the pain of rejection, the feelings of hopelessness and the questions that plague a hurting wife. In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heartfelt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathys letters. When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart testifies that there is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.
Watching Sex: How Men Really Respond to Pornography 

In his quest to debunk the widely held assumption that pornography warps its users' views of sexuality, journalist Loftus interviewed nearly 150 men about their relationships with pornographic materials. He admits that his set of interviews are not a truly random representation of society: a relatively high percentage are gay or bisexual, for instance, and many hold advanced degrees or have above-average incomes. The men are forthcoming and reflectve as they recount their first exposures to erotic materials and analyze how pornography has affected their lives, revealing emotional responses ranging from pleasure to indifference and disgust. However, the book stumbles when interviewees move from speaking as pornography consumers to sociological pundits and respond to more topical concerns. When asked about the possible link between pornography and violence or the supposed prevalence of sexual abuse among porn performers, their responses are understandably subjective and lacking in depth. Loftus's own arguments are at times simplistic as well. In an attempt to refute the feminist claim that pornography treats women as objects, for instance, he argues that the interviewees are not objectifying women because they do not explicitly say that they are doing so, not allowing for the possibility that the interviewees may not be aware of their own murky motives or responses. The lack of nuanced interpretation on Loftus's part and the limited cross-section of interviewees make some of the book's claims, such as the idea that a high percentage of men would prefer plot-driven, less explicit pornography, ring somewhat false. Yet the book opens a fascinating window on sub-kinks such as furry erotica (fantasy narratives involving human-like animals) and MUSH (Multi-User Shared Hallucination) role-playing.














































































 
A Biblical Guide to Counseling the Sexual Addict 

Steve Gallaghers work is like a pair of pliers in your toolboxhelpful in a variety of circumstances. Just getting started in biblical counseling? Need insight to help a homosexual or pastor who has failed morally? Wondering how to counsel a hurting wife or teenager fighting porn's grip? Steve addresses all these issues and more in a biblically sound manner that will help you minister to people in bondage to sexual sin. Whether you are counseling, running a support group or looking for answers yourself, I urge you to read this book and use what you learn. Pliers arent meant to be kept in the toolbox!
The Silent War: Ministering to Those Trapped in Deception of Pornography

Lately I've noticed an increase in the publication of Christian-based books about sexual addiction. They have been written because there seems to be a growing number of men in the church who are trapped and defeated by sexual issues. This problem is one that needs to be addressed at a basic level, and this book does that in an admirably honest and straightforward fashion. It is well-written, and should be read by anyone involved in this issue. But there is a crucial aspect which should be taken into account when reading this book (and others like it) that I'll expand upon below.

Each individual book within this genre tends to have a similar overall message and methodology - "sin bad, purity good, here's how to stay holy, etc." There's usually a unique slant to them as well, depending on whatever point the author feels the need to make. In the case of "The Silent War," the focus is on the negative consequences of sex addiction and involvement with pornography. Much of the book documents the casualties on all fronts of the "Silent War" - the men who risk everything to fulfill their sex addiction, the family members they devastate, and the women who put their physical, emotional, and spiritual health on the line by their personal involvement in the porn industry. This is particularly effective because it shows the human cost of sexual addiction, and destroys the myth that pornography is a "victimless" crime. It's only in the last couple of chapters that a solution for those in bondage to this sin is offered, and it is along the usual Christian lines of accountability, prayer, fleeing temptation, Scripture meditation/memorization, and so forth.

I liked the book - it's an easy read, the main author is very transparent about his own struggles with pornography, and the message is an important one. However, any Christian who is dealing with sexual addiction and pornography should not rely on this book alone (although it can be said that any single book on this topic is somehow inadequate). While sound, the solutions listed above will only "work" for the reader if they have a growing love relationship with Christ, and a PRIMARY desire to know Him and obey Him. If one simply concentrates on eliminating the sin (the negative) without discovering an acceptable alternative (the positive), then I think eventually they will fall again. Personal holiness is a byproduct of our relationship with God - it's not an end in itself. If that is kept in mind, then "The Silent War" is worth reading as an aid to strengthening one's existing walk with God.